InnerWhispers
Low or Changed Desire
Losing interest in sex, or a mismatch in desire with your partner.
Conditions · Sexuality
Sexuality and Sexual Wellbeing Support in India
Questions about desire, intimacy, performance or orientation can be hard to talk about. Here you can, privately and without judgement, online or in person.
Nothing about you is too awkward to talk about.
100% confidential
Judgement-free
LGBTQIA+ affirming
Online or in person
Understanding sexual wellbeing
A Part of Your Wellbeing
Sexuality includes desire, intimacy, relationships and who you're attracted to. It's closely linked to your mental health: stress, anxiety, low mood, medication, past experiences and relationship strain can all affect it, and it can affect them too.
It's common, and rarely talked about
Many people have concerns about sex or intimacy at some point in life.
It's nothing to be ashamed of
Your questions and feelings are valid, whatever they are.
Support helps
Talking it through can ease pressure and bring you closer to yourself and your partner.
Common concerns
What People Talk to Us About
You don't need a diagnosis to ask for help. If any of these feel familiar, we're here.
Performance Anxiety
Worrying about how you'll perform, which can make intimacy feel stressful.
Arousal and Pleasure
Difficulty becoming aroused, keeping an erection, or reaching orgasm.
Pain or Discomfort
Pain during sex, or tension that makes intimacy difficult.
Guilt or Shame
Feeling guilty or anxious about sex, desires or your body, often shaped by how you grew up.
Questions About Orientation
Feeling unsure about who you're attracted to, or thinking about coming out.
These concerns aren't a diagnosis. If you're thinking of harming yourself, call your local emergency number or Tele-MANAS (free, 24/7) at 14416 right away.
Mind and body
Looking at the Whole Picture
Sexual concerns often have both emotional and physical sides. We focus on the emotional side, and we'll suggest seeing a doctor when a physical check makes sense.
It's worth seeing a doctor too if
- You have pain, bleeding or discomfort during or after sex
- Erection difficulties happen most of the time, including when alone
- Changes came on suddenly, or after starting a new medicine
- You have diabetes, heart problems or hormonal conditions
An affirming space
We never try to change anyone's sexual orientation or gender identity. So-called conversion therapy is harmful, and in India the National Medical Commission treats it as professional misconduct.
Areas we support
Every Story Is Different
Not sure where your concern fits? You don't have to work it out alone. We'll help you understand it.
Desire and intimacy
Reconnecting with desire, closeness and communication in a relationship.
Performance worries
Breaking the cycle of pressure, worry and avoidance around sex.
Orientation and coming out
Exploring who you are, and support with family, friends and relationships. Identity
After difficult experiences
When past experiences, including sexual violence, affect how you feel about intimacy. Trauma
How we help
Support for Sexual Wellbeing, Your Way
You decide what to share and when. Medication is only suggested if it's clinically appropriate, and always discussed with you first.
Therapy
A private space to work through anxiety, shame or past experiences that affect your sexual wellbeing.
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Individually or as a couple, to improve communication, closeness and understanding.
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A psychiatric review, including whether any medication could be affecting your sex life.
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Mindfulness and relaxation tools to ease tension and be more present.
Learn more →Day to day
Small Steps You Can Take
Gentle habits can support you alongside professional care. They're not a substitute for it.
Explore Tann aur Mann1
Take the pressure off
Focusing on closeness and comfort, instead of performance, often helps more than trying harder.
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Talk with your partner
Choose a calm moment outside the bedroom to share how you feel, without blame.
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Look after your overall health
Sleep, stress, alcohol and tobacco can all affect desire and arousal.
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Use reliable information
Online myths and pornography can set unrealistic expectations. Ask a professional instead.
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Book a consultation
Choose a psychiatrist or psychologist, online or in person. You don't need to say why when you book.
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Meet your professional
Talk openly in a private session. Share only what you're comfortable with.
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Build a plan that fits your life
Therapy, counselling, medical guidance or self-care tools.
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Grow at your pace
Follow-ups for as long as you find them helpful.
Assessment
Want to know where you stand?
A professional can talk through sexual health concerns with you, privately and without judgement.
FAQ
Frequently Asked
Questions
Yes. Sexual wellbeing is part of your overall health, and our professionals are used to these conversations. You can share as much or as little as you like, and nothing you say will shock us.
Yes. You can explore your feelings at your own pace, without any labels or expectations. If and when you want to come out, we can help you think through how, when and to whom.
It's possible. Some medicines, including certain antidepressants, can affect desire or arousal. Don't stop taking them on your own. Talk to your psychiatrist or doctor, who may be able to adjust your treatment.
If you have pain, erection difficulties, or a sudden change, it's a good idea to also see a doctor, urologist or gynaecologist to check for physical causes. Mind and body often both play a part, and we can work alongside them.
Yes, if you both want that. Some people start alone and invite their partner later. Your professional will help you decide what works best.
Yes. What you share stays private. We only share information with your consent, except in rare situations where someone's safety is at serious risk.
No. If you're in danger or have been sexually assaulted, call 112 or the Women Helpline at 181, and seek medical care as soon as you can. In a mental health crisis, call Tele-MANAS at 14416.
Get in touch
Take the First Step Today
Book a consultation and we'll help you choose the right support.
InnerWhispers isn't an emergency service. In a crisis, call your local emergency number or Tele-MANAS at 14416.